I have decided to share my personal experiences and the reality of my life with my esteemed readers. The sole motive is to guide the young generation about the value of time. You might have heard from our elders that time never comes back. This statement is true. I am presenting the proof. Please go through it thoroughly and try to learn lessons from it. Let’s start
ABOUT MY PARENTS
My parents used to live in a small village in Bhaderwah ( A VILLAGE IN JAMMU & KASHMIR IN INDIA). My grandfather was a farmer. He had seven sons. My father was the eldest one. My source of income from my grandfather was agriculture. He used to cultivate the land, harvest it, and feed the children. Grandmother was also a simple lady and was a housewife, dedicated to her husband and children. The resources of earning were very scarce so the whole family had to lead a poverty-prone life. Can you imagine that my father and his six brothers used to have only one geometry box? They used to use it on a turn basis. All of them used to go to school, which increased the burden on my grandfather.
Demands Kept On Increasing
As the demands of the children increased with time but the source of income remained the same. After living a hard and poverty-prone childhood, my father got selected for a Govt. job. All his brothers were also appointed to Govt. services. Now the scene had changed. My father got married at the age of 23. After his marriage, for 12 long years, he remained childless. You can understand the agonomy of such people. They wondered hard here and there in search of such doctor/ doctors, who could give them a child. They even went to many Tantriks. Finally, after a long gap of 12 years, they had a smile on their faces.
Birth Of My Brother
My mother gave birth to my elder brother. After two years I was also born. They gave us love affection and everything which was the need of the hour. Myself and my brother were admitted to a private school. We grew up under the shadow of the love of our parents. I was very brilliant in my studies whereas my elder brother was a bookworm. He used to study for hours together but fetched average results and I always delivered a good result too by giving sitting in minutes. In our family of near about 100 people, I was the only one to score first Division at that time. I continued to study in the same manner in the 11th and 12th classes also and fetched good results in those classes too. Then came the U-turn in my life.
College Life
As soon as I joined the college, I fell into bad company. I always used to spend time with my useless friends. My parents even requested me to leave that company but I always ignored them. I started smoking and taking other drugs. The result was that my studies started suffering and my percentage started to decrease. Somehow I was able to complete my graduation. The percentage scored by me was so less that I didn’t get admission to any university. Because of the repeated insistence of my parents, I started realizing my mistake and left the bad company slowly and steadily. I gave up all the bad habits which I had developed in past years and got admission to the University of Jammu as a private candidate.
MY FATHER
To meet the needs of his brothers and parents, he(MY FATHER) started doing the work of a laborer @ re. 1 per day. He continued to work for one day and went to school the other day. He went on in the same way, worked with my grandfather in the fields, worked as a laborer, went to school, and in this process he attained the age of 18.
After my admission to the University of Jammu, I started taking my life and studies seriously. I worked hard days and nights and gave my exams for semester 1. I came out with flying colors, the highest percentage of my student life i.e. 74%. The zeal continued for the 2nd semester also. The day on which I went to university to deliver my exams, I was attacked by my old enemies of those olden days, by 7 people. I was beaten very mercilessly by those grooms. I was left with no other option and I ran away from the spot, leaving my exams.
What Happened After That Incident
After that incident, I was so terrified that I left my other exams too. This all happened in that bad company which I had joined in my past time. That is why it is said that a good or bad company always pays. I repented a lot for that but there was nothing in my hands and kept all these things and episodes secret from my parents also.
Never Dared To Give Exams
Because of this incident, I never dared to enter the University for the next five years. After five years, I collected all my courage and decided to give the exams again. I again started the preparations half-heartedly, fearing that incident. Because of God’s grace, I was able to deliver my exams. Ultimately I cleared the exams. with flying colors. I was very much encouraged and then I took admitted to the M.A English course. I cleared the exams also that too with flying colors. Now I had become M.Sc. (Math) and M.A in English.
Important Part Of My Life
I forgot to tell you about an important part of my life when I was in bad company then I was appointed in the Indian army. Despite the repeated requests of my parents, I never joined it because of the influence of that company. You must be even surprised to know the fact that I was shortlisted in the final list as a sub-inspector in Police, which I never joined. I am telling you all this because I want to tell you the impact of bad company on one’s life. The young generation is advised to learn a lesson from it and always try to remain away from such company.
Realization Of My Mistakes
When I realized all my mistakes, it was too late now. I started my coaching center and started working very hard. Slowly and steadily my coaching center started to grow and the strength of the students also started increasing. I started earning good profits. But destiny had some other thing stored for me. I fall seriously ill. There were no chances of my survival. Anyhow after treatment for two months and an operation, I recovered. After three months of my illness when I started my duties again I was very surprised to find that out of 456 students only 12 students were left. During my illness, all my co-teachers came in a relaxed mode and the result was in front of me. It became very difficult for me to even pay the rent of the building. So I decided to patch up my tuition center. Once again I was income-less.
Parents Always Backed Me Up
My parents always backed me up and supported me. Because of them and their blessings I never starved. It’s often said that when everybody leaves you, only parents support you. There is another lesson for every reader never leave your parents alone. always respect them and take their blessings. Their blessings have power that can’t be explained in words. Just start respecting your parents, take care of them properly, and find the difference. Time continued to pass. In the meantime, I got married and after two years, I became the father of a very naughty son.
U-Turn Of My Life
Now my son is 12 years old. Now I have started realizing the importance of life. When I see any officer moving with security, I feel I could have gotten the same treatment If I wouldn’t waste my time. I am writing all this in my blog because I don’t want anybody to suffer, as I am suffering. A strong feeling of guilt comes into my mind again and again. This is the situation that I couldn’t help. These days I am working as a Lecturer in a private college. I try to guide the students too, not to kill time.
Lessons Of My Life
Remember one thing that man or woman has to work hard once in his or her life. It wholly depends upon the said person, when he/she wants to do this duty. Listen, when your parents are alive and working, they fulfill all the needs of their children. The children have to do only one thing i.e.. . They should go for their studies wholeheartedly if they want to live a comfortable life in future. Food, shelter, and clothes are provided by the parents. No responsibilities are on the shoulders of children till their parents are alive.
Responsibilities Of Life
Once the parents leave the world and the child gets married, all the responsibilities come on the shoulders of the child. If the child had worked hard and attained any status or post in the society, it becomes very easy for him /her to sustain and if the child neither hadn’t worked hard nor attained any status in the society, he/she is forced to work hard in that age which doesn’t support hard work. The responsibilities of the family force that particular grown-up child to do the hard work of none other than a work of laborer. At that time the mistake is realized, but nobody can help the said person to come out of this situation.
Example
I would like to explain it with the help of an example. A girl of a laborer was known to me. They had a hut in which they had only one room cum kitchen in which all the people of the family lived. The said girl was pursuing M.Sc. in Maths. She hadn’t enough resources to pursue her studies because of her poor financial conditions. Her father backed her up. He wanted her to continue her studies. With all his hard work, he somehow managed to pay her fee.
Lack Of Facilities
She was short of books and space as she had only one room that too for the whole family of seven members and used to study under the street light, outside her hut. She was just mad about her studies and faced very difficult times managing books and continuing her studies. Anyhow despite all the difficulties, she gave the exams. and you would be astonished as I was, to know her result. She had topped the merit list despite all the odds. Last but not the least, she was offered a scholarship from London University.
Her Determination
She did her P.H.D from there and was employed in London at a monthly salary of 700000 per month and married a boy over in London who also earned a handsome income. She changed her generation. Whenever I pass from that hut, the memories come to my mind. I want you to become like that girl and do something extraordinary in life.
KEYS TO ACHIEVING SUCCESS IN LIFE
1. Work hard during your childhood.
2. Obey your parents as they have more experience of life than you.
3. Make goals in your life.
4. Make plans A, B, and C in your life and try to achieve plan A, If failed then work on plan B and then on plan C.
5. Never give up.
6. Have faith in your abilities.
7. Make your willpower strong. With strong willpower, anything can be achieved.
8. Take help from an experienced person.
Hope you will enjoy reading this article. Stay connected to read my next articles. Till then Bye! God bless you all.
Practice these rules in your life and see the difference.