Marriage is a pious relationship, not only between two individuals but between two different families. It means that the customs and traditions of one another are shared and accepted by both families. As for as married individuals are concerned, no doubt they are the sole identities who share each other’s happiness, sorrows, and difficulties in life, all to gather. It’s a well-known saying that pairs are made in heaven. Every single has a pair of his own, with whom the knot is to be tied.
A Happy Relationship Is A Key To Success
A happy relationship between the two is key to success. It’s also said that behind a successful man there is a woman. If your partner is loving and caring, life becomes like heaven on earth and if the partner behaves otherwise, it becomes hell on earth. So, it’s important to understand each other’s feelings and emotions.
Today I am going to share some useful tips which will help you to understand your partner and lead a happy and successful married life. These tips were used even 50 or 100 years ago and were successful in those days and are also successful in modern times. Before sharing these tips I would like to share an incident with you. Once, Along with my wife, I attended a marriage function. There I met a couple who had completed 60 years of their successful marriage.
My Questions And Conclusion
I asked them, whether they used to quarrel during this long span of married life. Their answer was affirmative and added that such type of quarrels strengthens the bond of love between married couples. I was very much attracted to the old couple and tried to gain knowledge and get benefitted from their experience. I then asked him about some tips for a successful happy and married life. The knowledge which I gained from the old couple, now I am going to share with you.
Tips For Happy Married Life
1. BE PATIENT WHILE LISTENING TO WHAT YOUR COUNTERPART IS SAYING
Mostly it has been observed that after marriage, for 1 or 2 years each and everything runs smoothly. After that time, interest in the counterpart starts decreasing. As a result, clashes start taking place between the couple. To run away from this situation, one person either husband or wife has to listen to the other’s point of view. If the husband is angry the wife has to keep quiet and if the wife is angry, the husband has to keep quiet to let that patch of time pass away. After the bad patch of time has passed, everything will be normal as usual. The most important weapon at that time is the calmness of an individual. If both of them get angry, the situation may worsen.
2. DON’T SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOUR COUNTERPART
Try to spend limited time with your counterpart. If you are spending more time with your counterpart means there are more chances of clashes. You are going to lose your respect in the eyes of your counterpart if you are sitting for the whole day with your counterpart. You must have noticed that the army men mostly remain away from their homes and they come on leave. They are respected and loved by their counterparts. No doubt clashes can be seen between them but they are minimum in number. If you have got enough free time, try to spend it doing other work.
3. DON’T PREFER LOVE MARRIAGE
In the case of a love marriage, the husband and the wife know each other before marriage because they have spent a lot of time with each other. They know each other’s weaknesses and start taunting them, whenever there is a clash between them. The rate of love marriages being successful is also very low. If you happen to go to any court, there you can see several married couples applying for a divorce. 99% of them are couples who had a love marriage. So, try to go for arranged marriage instead of love marriage. It will prolong till death.
4. SHARE EVERYTHING WITH YOUR PARTNER
If you share everything with your counterpart, excluding your life before marriage will generate a feeling of confidence in the mind of your counterpart. This will help in making the bond of trust and love stronger.
5. TRY TO CLOSE THE MATTER AS SOON AS POSSIBLE
Sometimes, if a quarrel occurs, try to close the matter as soon as possible. Greater you will extend it, it may go out of control. It’s a well-known saying that thread ones broken can’t be joined again, if joined, a knot has to be tied. Act wisely before it becomes too late and out of control.
6. DON’T ALLOW TO LEAK INTERNAL INFORMATION OUTSIDE THE FOUR WALLS OF YOUR HOUSE
Whatsoever is happening inside your house shouldn’t be disclosed to outsiders. Don’t share it with your friends or in-laws. They will take it lightly and will make fun of it. It becomes very difficult to control the matter, once it goes outside the four walls of your house. Sit together, talk about it and try to close it. Remember no outsider is going to help you in such a situation other than making fun of your critical situation.
7. CELEBRATE EACH AND EVERY MOMENT TOGETHER
Try to celebrate small moments with your counterparts, such as birthdays or marriage anniversaries, and celebrate these moments by sharing gifts. If you are not in the position to purchase costly gifts. Nothing to worry about. A gift presented with love doesn’t need to be costly. Even cheapest of the gift can make your counterpart happy. He/She will be filled with feelings of love in his/her heart.
8. TIME MANAGEMENT
Time management is an important part of a strong relationship. If you have decided to attend a function, say at 8’o clock. At that time if the
ale is ready and is told that the wife is getting ready, which makes him angry. In the same way, if the female is ready and the husband hasn’t returned from the office, it makes the wife angry. So, try to manage your time according to your plan. This is one of the biggest reasons for a clash between a husband and a wife. Try to avoid such situations, if possible.
9. RESPECT YOUR RELATION
Husband and wife should only not their relation but also each other’s parents also. It has been noticed that when there is a clash between the couple, mostly the men start abusing the parents of the wife. Which is not fair. What, if the wife also starts criticizing your parents? This can lead to an unrecoverable situation. After your marriage, your parents have become common. Try to respect each other’s parents can avoid such situations. Parents shouldn’t be dragged between your clashes. They deserve respect and due respect should be given to them. Behaving in a wrong way shows the cheapness of the husband or wife, whosoever uses abusive language.
10. HAVE TRUST IN YOUR COUNTERPART
Trust plays an important part in every couple’s life. The relationship flourishes under the shadow of trust. Doubt can be cleared but suspicious nature can’t be cured. Suspicious nature is like termite, which eats away wood slowly and steadily. The same is the case with suspicious nature, which eats away at the relationship. So, the bond of trust is compulsory for every relationship to prolong. No, the third person should be allowed to enter this bond of trust.
11. LEARN TO FORGIVE
Forgiveness is the biggest asset in this world. Forging a person shows your humbleness and your greatness. It also symbolizes your strength. Remember, always fruit-laden trees bow down. Try to forgive the small mistakes of your counterpart.
12. SHARE WORK
Try to share work with your counterpart in your spare time if your wife is a working lady. Even if she is not a working lady, try to share work. A woman doesn’t need to have an obligation to cook food and look after the children. Looking after children is your responsibility also. Sharing of work according to the affordability of time can be done. It will help in strengthening the bond of love.
13. SHOWING CONCERN FOR YOUR COUNTERPART
Showing concern towards your counterpart is also essential for making the bond of love strong. If the husband is feeling ill, the wife has to take care of her husband and if the wife is ill, her husband has to look after her. This way your life will become easier and happier.
These are the tips that I learned from that old couple. Hope everyone gets benefits from it and also hope that every one of you gets an ideal life partner and you may live a happy and successful married life.
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